1) There are things which people may love and appreciate and things which they would dislike. There are also things upon which they would differ. So while some may be appreciative of them, others may not. Everyone loves to be smiled at and hates to be frowned at, yet some may appreciate jokes whilst others may not. Some would like it when others visit them whilst others would rather be left alone.
2) So if a wife knows that her husband loves jokes, then let her joke with him. If she discovers the opposite then she would avoid joking with him. The same can be said about a man dealing with his colleagues, neighbours and brothers. Do not think for a moment that people are all of the same nature for they differ and come in many varieties.
3) Whoever looks at the way the Prophet SAW dealt with people would realize that he would deal with everyone in accordance to their personality.
4) Everyone has a key to open his heart, earn his love and influence him. We notice this often in our lives. Be special and look for the keys with which to open up the hearts. Knowing the keys to their hearts helps them accept good advices when it is offered, that is if the advice is presented in an appropriate manner, as people do not all react the same way when advised. So be creative and always remember your objective. Be gentle and proceed the advice with care. Let them know how much you care and hoped for the best for them.
5) Hence, do not think that people are of similar nature. Rather, they differ tremendously. So use your knowledge of the person well for that is the key to their hearts.
Saturday, May 21, 2011
Friday, April 8, 2011
Fulfilling people's needs
1) Pragmatism. Have you ever heard of these phrases?
"If you are not serving my interests, why should I serve you? Why should I spend money on you? Why should I spend my time on you and struggle without any material gain?"
2) Islam turned this idea upside down. Allah SWT said "Be good to others, for Allah loves those who are good". The Prophet SAW said, "For me to walk with my brother to fulfill his need until it is fulfilled is more beloved to me than making it'ikaf in this mosque of mine for a month." He also said, "The one who helps his brother in need, Allah SWT helps him when he is in need."
3) Yes! The Prophet SAW used to enter people's hearts by fulfilling their needs. He would spend his strength, time and his wealth for their sake.
4) If a person needs to go to the hospital, you should take him to the hospital. If another person asks you for your help in a problem, you should help him out. Stand by him during his mishaps. If someone is sad, offer good and comforting words.
5) Do not hope for any rewards or even thanks. Be rest assured that your reward will come from Allah SWT.
6) Even a good word is charity!!
7) The one who lives for others surely has a hard life, but he will live nobly and die nobly insyaAllah. :-)
"If you are not serving my interests, why should I serve you? Why should I spend money on you? Why should I spend my time on you and struggle without any material gain?"
2) Islam turned this idea upside down. Allah SWT said "Be good to others, for Allah loves those who are good". The Prophet SAW said, "For me to walk with my brother to fulfill his need until it is fulfilled is more beloved to me than making it'ikaf in this mosque of mine for a month." He also said, "The one who helps his brother in need, Allah SWT helps him when he is in need."
3) Yes! The Prophet SAW used to enter people's hearts by fulfilling their needs. He would spend his strength, time and his wealth for their sake.
4) If a person needs to go to the hospital, you should take him to the hospital. If another person asks you for your help in a problem, you should help him out. Stand by him during his mishaps. If someone is sad, offer good and comforting words.
5) Do not hope for any rewards or even thanks. Be rest assured that your reward will come from Allah SWT.
6) Even a good word is charity!!
7) The one who lives for others surely has a hard life, but he will live nobly and die nobly insyaAllah. :-)
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Respond to mistreatment with kindness
1) Been awhile since my last post. Been busy though. Apologies.
2) Most commonly when you deal with people, they treat you how they want to treat you, and not how you want to be treated. Not everyone you meet with cheerfulness is cheerful to you in return. Some of them may even become angry and think badly of you. Not everyone you present gifts returns your favour. Not everyone you are kind to in speech or praise generously or use kind words with responds to you in kind.
3) Allah SWT has divided up manners for people, just as He divided up their sustenance. Some people have no solution to their problems and nor is there a way to reform them. You can only deal with them in accordance with their own wishes. In that case, you can either have patience with them or leave them be.
4) Do not be saddened by mistreatment. Be firm like the mountain. The Prophet SAW would deal with people rationally and not emotionally. He would bear other people's mistakes and still be gentle with them. Gentleness only beautifies an action while harshness only serves to tarnish it.
5) If they consume my flesh, I spare theirs. If they destroy my honour, I build theirs. They do not hurry to my aid, but I hurry if they call me to theirs. I do not hold grudges against them, for the leader never bears grudges.
Reference: "Enjoy Your Life"
2) Most commonly when you deal with people, they treat you how they want to treat you, and not how you want to be treated. Not everyone you meet with cheerfulness is cheerful to you in return. Some of them may even become angry and think badly of you. Not everyone you present gifts returns your favour. Not everyone you are kind to in speech or praise generously or use kind words with responds to you in kind.
3) Allah SWT has divided up manners for people, just as He divided up their sustenance. Some people have no solution to their problems and nor is there a way to reform them. You can only deal with them in accordance with their own wishes. In that case, you can either have patience with them or leave them be.
4) Do not be saddened by mistreatment. Be firm like the mountain. The Prophet SAW would deal with people rationally and not emotionally. He would bear other people's mistakes and still be gentle with them. Gentleness only beautifies an action while harshness only serves to tarnish it.
5) If they consume my flesh, I spare theirs. If they destroy my honour, I build theirs. They do not hurry to my aid, but I hurry if they call me to theirs. I do not hold grudges against them, for the leader never bears grudges.
Reference: "Enjoy Your Life"
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