If what you desire does not happen, then desire that which does

1) If you are obliged to do something or forced into a situation, then you might as well enjoy it! This is what Dr Muhammad Abd Ar-Rahman Al-Arifi used to say to a young man who had diebetes. The young man used to drink tea without sugar and feel sorry for himself.

He would say to the young man, "When you feel sorry and sad while drinking your tea, does the bitterness turn into sweetness?"

The young man said "No". Then he replied, "Then, so long as you are forced into a situation, enjoy it!"

2) The world is not always as we wish it to be and this happens frequently in our lifes.

Perhaps, you apply for a seat in a particular university, but your application is only accepted by a department in which you do not want to study. You try to change the predicament, but you can't. You end up having to study for 4 years in a department that wasn't your choice. What should you do? Enjoy!

Perhaps, you liked a girl! But she refuses and marries someone else. What is the solution? this situation cannot be changed, so just enjoy it!

3) Many people think the solution is permanent depression or grumbling over the situation or excessive complaining. This does not help them acquire the provision they have missed out on or gain provision that is not meant to be for them.

If what you desire does not happen, then desire that which has happened. The intelligent person is the one who readjusts himself in accordance with his situation, however it may be, seeing he is not able to change it for the better. Well for all we know, perhaps the latter is an even better situation to be in. Allah SWT knows best.

4) Yes, live your life as there is no time to grieve. Deal with what you have in front of you. Not everthing a man desires he achieves. Often the winds blow in unfavourable directions for the ships.

5) "...But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not."

Surah Al-Baqarah : 216

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